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Motherhood making me unhappy every single day. I feel terrible and all the 'positive parenting s

Author : sarah

Submitted : 2018-01-21 06:31:25    Popularity:     

Tags: single  day  feel  Motherhood  making  

Single mother of 2, no support, unable to get support even as i have broke down in tears have social work involvement which has tipped me over the edge.....( left child 3, sleeping while went to the shop approx 10 minute all round trip and child 6 answe

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I am bored and can't sleep. Interesting question. Sounds as if it is a troll though.
"does anyone else know how this feels? "

Yes, I do... I am the male side of this story (make sense)?

I guess though it is harder for a female. The assumption is "she can do it", "it is her job" - "it is what she does". I imagine this is how friends/family 'drop it on her' or can ignore her. It is why it is harder to get help, "she can do it" says everyone. The social norm is "it is the females job/responsibility". I guess, I do not know. I am the male side.

I am sure most see/perceive the kids as baggage, which complicate problems, "Uh-Oh She got kids". I do not see it that way, so I am bet I am not alone. But, I can see that. So, "does anyone else know how this feels? " yes but only from the male POV.

What did I do? I looked for the few people in the world who were not jealous, petty, incompetent, rude or gained their self worth by putting others down. They are harder to find. Then, I went through that short list to find people like me/similar.

Then I identified my problems: Stress, anxiety, depression or whatever they were. I found a few herbs (natural supplements) things that were good. I smoke daily as it helps all of those things and I have 2 shots of Tequila in the AM 2 at night. I rarely ever get drunk. I play this game I like on the computer. I play these games I like on the Xbox. I read these books I like, I learn about these things "I like". I know what Cognitive Behavior Therapy is, I learned about and became certified in Life Coaching (It was an easier transition for me I guess, I work human capital). I pierce people, I dig it. I engage them, I talk to them, I help them enhance their beauty or look, I get tattooed it is a bit therapeutic (it hurts to be honest).

While I do not get the opportunity to do it a lot. I have primal, kinky or primal sex. The benifits are there with the right (not wrong) person. One of those things I was interested in was human sexuality, so I got a certification. I own this house, computer and cars outside. I am alright but not really "ok". I do/did me though. The kid is way smarter than me, the other one is too. I did amazing there. That is what "I did" or "I do"...... U b U, I guess, do what works for you. Eventually it is over, coulda been better, it worked. :/

Uh, YES - you said you left a 3 yr old and 6 yr old home alone while you shopped. You are VERY lucky you were not criminally charged with neglect. If you fail to see your error, just another reason why you need DFCS intervention. I worked as a parent educator. It’s common sense, you can’t leave small kids home alone even for a few minutes NO MATTER the circumstance.

You deserved social service intervention. You do need to get out of the house with those kids, and get involved in community programs like tot gym or library story time. Next —- you need to find some good parenting classes for support. Many churches offer parenting programs. Maybe there’s a crisis pregnancy center that offers help for moms of preschoolers. The kids are reacting to your feeling of helplessness.
- you should also be getting child support. Seek out every and any program to get you out of the home, the kids busy, and you getting your needed support.

Where's the father ? ? It sounds like you bailed out rather then trying to get help and be a good mother.
You need to see a family therapist or relinquish your parental rights so you don't hurt your children.
BUT you chose to let a deadbeat dad impregnate you 2 times.

Where is the father(s) in all of this? Maybe having social services involved in this way is a good thing. Perhaps you need to consider that you can not take care of all of the children, and the best thing to do for them and you is to have one places with a foster family for now. They are likely to behave better if separated. Your situation sounds terrible, I don't think I could manage in your place either, hang in there.
Don't worry about the nameless troll. They are just bitter, mean people who probably couldn't last five minutes in your shoes, and who somehow thinks it is your fault that your kids father is not doing what he is supposed to.
Don't be sad that your kids are mad at you. Kids are supposed to get mad at parents, because you make them do stuff they don't like, like going to bed. That does not mean you are a bad mom. You are probably doing a better ob then you think, and your kids are lucky to have you. Just keep on doing your best.

Sounds like Postpartum Depression. It's common.

I would find a support group. Or just vent here. ;)



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