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Sister in-law lost her baby and I m due soon.. I m not sure how to feel?

Author : Sara H

Submitted : 2018-01-14 07:05:10    Popularity:     

Tags: lost  law  Sister  feel  due  

I m 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby and my SIL s baby stopped growing at 8 weeks, 3 weeks ago (they just found out today). They already announced to their 3 kids on Christmas that they were going to have a little brother or sister. My husband and h

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don't worry if you feel guilty because to you that's going to be a normal way to feel but believe me your sister in law even though at the moment going through a lot probably will be happy to welcome a new member to the family it may be a little upsetting to her but am sure she will take the new of your little baby fine, congratulations by the way I hope it all goes to plan.

"I am so sorry for your loss."

Then follow her lead. She's aware that people successfully carry pregnancies when she didn't manage it. Don't be a d-bag about it and brag about your pregnancy, just follow her lead. If she asks about it, tell the truth. If she seems hurt about it, don't bring it up.

You offer her support, and understand that she most likely will not want to see you for a while. She probably won't even want to see the baby when it's born. And that's perfectly normal and okay. Of course, she may also fall on the other side of taking comfort in your child. There's no way to say. But it's on her. She lost a child. This is her lead for you to follow.

I also think you REALLY need to learn more empathy. You're emotionless and just think "well it happens"? Preparing yourself for that loss and actually experiencing that loss are vastly different. Trying to equate what she's going through with what you went through is completely baseless. In fact, it would probably be a good idea to have your husband be the one offering support and taking the lead, you should most likely take a backseat. The fact that you're so flippant about it is bound to come through. Any sadness you express will be insincere, and that's the worst thing you can offer to her right now.

About 18yrs ago I had a best friend who was also a neighbor and we were just a few weeks apart in our 2nd pregnancies. Same with our first. During our second pregnancies though she lost her baby at 38wks. Her daughter died moments after birth. I was due just a few weeks after her. I felt horrible. I didn't know what to do or say. But, she encouraged me to come over, talked eagerly about meeting my daughter and so on. It felt really weird for me. But, she took joy in my up coming birth and loved my daughter very much.

So follow your sister inlaws signs. Be there for her and if she shows joy in your baby be happy with her. If she is sad then express how sad you feel.

Also understand that what happened with your sister inlaw is more common than people are aware of. I lost 3 babies to miscarriage. One was at 8wks. They were very hard losses too.



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